Be heard. Be seen. Be you.
Hello and welcome to Untold Stories. I spent years not living the life I wanted. Depression, anxiety and fear stopped me. Utter desperation, and pure dumb luck, led me to stumble onto a course that within twelve weeks led me to authentic confidence. So this is what it’s like to feel good about myself! Life is too short not to take that step - now! Let’s live our lives.
My name is Jane Timberlake and I lost forty-five years to depression. For most of that time I didn’t even know I was depressed. I was shy, I was alone, and I made one bad decision after another. It never occurred to me to go to my GP. There was no cure to being a loser. Finally, a crisis got out of hand and I was diagnosed with severe depression. I was so relieved! I finally knew what was wrong with me.
Years later, I was no better. Unemployable, lacking any kind of skills whatsoever, I did something I had never done before: I signed up for a course, where I would have to go to the trouble of travelling into town, when it was dark and cold too, and, worst of all, take part, actually do things, with strangers. For a dedicated couch potato, living vicariously through fictitious characters, and who had a hard time doing things I enjoyed with people I knew and even liked, well, that just shows how desperate I was. I knew I couldn’t let the second half of my life go the same way as the first. I don’t think I even knew a lack of confidence was my problem. I just considered myself incapable of anything. I was in search of skills for an idea way above my station (something about public storytelling). So I chose a course that used drama techniques, thinking, hoping, it would lead to me having the courage to go forward with my idea.
I want to the Intro evening and saw people looking how I felt - way out of my comfort zone, confused, so nervous I didn’t even have time to register how terrified I was, only able to recognise it on other peoples faces. By the end of that evening I was still nervous, but I was also glad, so very very glad, that I’d done it, that I’d been able to do it, mainly because I was there, had paid to be there, and I had to do something and not sit out and watch everybody else get on with it, like I usually do. I felt invigorated, and found myself looking forward to the course itself.
Twelve weeks later I was astounded to note the difference in myself. I felt good! I felt hopeful! I felt worthy of the attention I was paid! I was aware that I wanted to keep going so I did all the courses provided by Claire at Making Moves that I could.
A couple of years later I decided to train as a Life Coach. While working my way through the exercises I realised just how much my attitude towards myself had changed. I was confident! I wasn’t living in fear. I felt capable and worthy of the life I wanted. Around that time, on another of Claire’s courses, I suddenly realised that I truly accepted myself, that I was no longer hating myself for not being how I thought I should be.
I’ve still got a ways to go, and I’m now training with Claire so I can run courses based on her Sunflower Effect myself. I hope you join me, so you can live your life, so you can pursue what’s truly important to you, too.
HOW THESE COURSES CAN HELP YOU
Confidence. Acceptance. Happiness.
Can’t find the time? Worried what others might think? What if nobody likes you? Do you believe you just can’t do it?
Can you afford not to do it?
Taking that first step can be nerve wrecking. The negative thoughts stopping you are your defences at work, keeping you safe from harm, and sadly, the change you need too.
I offer one-to-one coaching, and perhaps you'll feel more comfortable doing that. When it comes to confidence, I believe working in a group brings additional benefits. It's the power of being witnessed. Being seen, being heard, by your peers, who are there for similar reasons to yourself, lets you experience real progress in the here and now.
One-to-one, you will be able to
find what’s important to you, and discover how to go forward in your life. You can still flip those negative and self limiting beliefs into positive life expanding beliefs and actions.
WHAT'S STOPPING YOU LIVE THE LIFE YOU WANT?
Imagine it’s three years from now - where do you hope to see yourself? Doing the same old thing, day in, day out, because it's safe, it's what you know? Fear and anxiety stopped me. Now I'm able to take chances, have experiences, make connections. What do you want from life? It's time to make your dreams a reality. What are you waiting for?
WHAT ARE YOU DOING NOW TO GET THE FUTURE AND LIFE YOU WANT?
You’re looking at this site - good start!
Coaching is a process that will allow you to examine your life, discover what’s important to you and set goals to achieve those dreams.
Coaching is about YOU taking control of your life. This can be hard work. Are you ready for real change? Coaching can be challenging. The coaching process is about YOU taking responsibility. YOU are in charge of the coaching process. YOU decide how fast or how cautiously you wish to progress to achieve your dreams. Start with that first step.
While I can share my own experiences and offer advice, our sessions will be focusing on YOU discovering what YOU want and deciding what you’ll do to get it.
Did I mention this is all about YOU?
WHAT COACHING IS - AND WHAT IT ISN'T
Coaching is not therapy or counselling. However, writing can be a form of therapy and if you do want to write to better understand yourself and your experiences, I can offer a sympathetic and safe place for you to express yourself. If necessary, we may discuss if coaching is the best thing for you or whether an alternative approach would be better. We may find I end up coaching you on an entirely different aspect of your life, and that's okay too. After all, an untold story can be an unlived life. Don't let that be you.
Coaching does require you to be as open and honest as you can. As with many things in life, the more you put into it, the more you'll get out of it.
Having said that, no one has to share any of their written work. What you write is private to you, and it is your decision should you ever wish to share it with anyone else.
I'm also happy to adapt to what you need to help you write, so if you'd like to brainstorm ideas, or would like some writing exercises or one-to-one tuition, I'm happy to oblige.
Word on the Street
Jane's coaching was inspirational. Her coaching led me to investigate ways to develop my writing skills, to look within and to find my motivation. Her questions opened up new avenues of thinking. Se has helped me to pursue my goals and to journey further along the path of writing.
Jane is a fantastic and natural coach.
I’ve wanted to be a writer since I was a child but never finished anything in my adult years. I’ve had no confidence in my style and was in fear of loading the stories that I attempted with cliché. I did like some of my ideas but lacked the faith to develop them. I would start a piece when I felt inspired and then just left it.
Jane has a very easy and inviting way. Even though she is a published writer, I never felt inadequate or intimidated. She completely understood my low confidence, low output and time issues, and then offered a great mix of searching questions and the odd (and very welcome) tips and reassurances to help me start writing. She always had just the right amount of energy and empathy to match the mood I was in and didn’t shy back from asking tough or uncomfortable questions to move me along when necessary. With Jane’s help, I’ve overcome my biggest obstacles and have put measures into place to keep me writing even after our sessions have finished.
It may not sound like much, but in the last 3 months I have started a blog and written three blog posts, and I have published a short story on Amazon Kindle. I have had feed-back from friends and family that I’ve never thought possible, and I trust that others will like my work too. Though I know I still have so much to learn, I feel I can be a writer after all. Now, if I have an idea or an inspiration, I just start and have a go at it, without agonising and then abandoning it. And, very importantly, I no longer feel guilty when I take time to write, as I have more positive energy to still manage the rest of my life.
The enjoyment and satisfaction I feel by following my life-long dream is priceless, and I can’t thank Jane enough for helping me make it happen.
Jane’s encouraging style and compassionate manner helped me feel comfortable and at ease from the outset. The creative exercises and tips were very useful; in facilitating me to shift my perspective and approach to writing website content. Jane provided a clear sounding board that helped me gain clarity and next step actions. The sessions also served as great accountability, in motivating me to review my progress before each session and clarify what I needed from each. Helping me keep me focused and on track. And creating momentum in progressing with my website content. Thank you for the sessions I appreciate your help. Wishing you continued success in your jo
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As someone who has never been coached and previously been somewhat sceptical of the the benefits, my view on the process and the results have been transformed. Jane has helped turn me from a writer who was lost, unproductive, and plagued with doubt into a writer blessed with the direction, commitment, and confidence required to find the fulfilment I really need from this creative pursuit.
HOW MUCH, WHEN AND WHERE
If you haven't attended a one-off workshop with me, then the first session is only £20.
Individual sessions are then £60 each.
Alternatively you can book 6 hours of coaching up front for £300 (so you get an extra hour for booking up front). This is recommended as more than one session will help you develop good writing habits and help keep the momentum going as well as giving you the opportunity to address any issues as you discover them. By paying for a total of hours rather than a number of sessions, our sessions will last for however long they need to be, whether you need to brainstorm for an hour or gain some clarity over a shorter session.
Sessions will be conducted on Skype, FaceTime, over the phone or face to face if geography allows.
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Workshops & Classes
New courses and workshops coming in January 2020.